Over the past few years, many researchers have found new and scientifically proven ways to increase positive emotions and well-being. From Martin Seligman to Barbera Fredrickson, from Jon Kabat-Zinn to Amy Cuddy. All of them have discovered and shared a number of different practices to help increase the level of positivity you can experience in your life.
The six techniques described below have all been shown to boost positive emotions, albeit with a certain amount of commitment and practice.
Depending on your preferences, you might find some techniques suit you more than others but let us introduce six exercises. Hopefully at least one will resonate you, which you give a try and let us know how it goes!
1. “Three blessings exercise”
This classic gratitude exercise is recommended by Seligman (2011) in his book “Flourish”. The idea is a simple journaling exercise.Every day, at the end of the day, write about 3 things – large or small – that went well for you, and why they went well.
This exercise has been shown to improve symptoms of depression over a timeframe of a few months, but really all of us can benefit from reflecting on what went well each day. Experiencing and savouring the moment is a powerful way of connecting with our inner selves in a positive way.
While its origins can be found in ancient Buddhist philosophy and meditation, mindfulness has found its way into modern life thanks to various advocates, like Job Kabat-Zinn, who developed Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction. The Berkeley University Greater Good Centre offer an excellent overview of the evidence supporting over mindfulness’s many advantages.
There are various techniques which can be practised to train your brain for mindfulness, some examples include mindful breathing and the full body-scan.
3. Loving-Kindness Meditation
In “Love 2.0″, Barbara Fredrickson describes how increasing micro-moments of love in your life – including compassion towards yourself – can increase your health, vitality and wellbeing.
Self-Compassion, a concept introduced and studied extensively by Kristen Neff, is about learning to love and support oneself. This approach of “self-love” has been shown to impact positive emotions towards ourselves, our behaviours and blunders as well as developing loving kindness and compassion for others.
Loving Kindness Meditation is one method which can be introduced in your daily life to begin experiencing loving kindness towards yourself and others.
You can find simple guided meditations on Fredrickson’s website.
How we interpret the world around us has an influence on our subjective well-being. Developing skills to deal with adversity helps us become more resilient and positive.
Reivich and Shatté (2002) describe a sequence of steps you can take to examine and reframe negative events, which include:
- identifying the type of emotion experienced,
- identifying thinking traps preventing us from seeing the bigger picture,
- putting our negative thoughts into perspective and
- taking positive action.
Famous motivational speaker Tony Robbins shows us the power of shifting perspectives in his TED talk, “Why we do what we do“.
5. Create Positive Experiences
It has been shown that positive experiences, and especially sharing these with others, can have a lasting impact on our emotions. The Big Think presents to us the evidence of why experiences make us happier than material things.
In a similar vein, research has shown that helping others makes us happy, whether it is helping out a colleague, friend or neighbour at short notice, or offering support and volunteering ourselves regularly. Random acts of kindness are an easy and fulfilling way to bring positive emotions into your life.
6. Posture and Presence
When you are in immediate need of positive emotions, paying attention to your body language and adjusting it accordingly can be beneficial.
Amy Cuddy’s new book “Presence” (2016) and her 2012 Ted talk, “Your body language shapes who you are” explains how our posture affects our emotions, and she shares “power poses” to quickly change your frame of mind and build confidence.
Take Home Message
Wanting to start living in a positive spiral is achievable. These 6 exercises which each offer a unique approach to positive emotions could be your solution to a more positive life, start with choosing one, practice it every day for a week, or even just 3 days in a week for a month and notice the difference you feel in yourself and towards others. We have no doubt that the changes will be noticeable and we wish you positive experimental period.
Are you familiar with other practices? What helps pick you up or moves you towards experiencing positive emotions? We would love to hear all about your story and add new practices to this list – let us know by leaving a comment below.
Cuddy, Amy (2016): Presence. London: Orion Books
Fredrickson, B.L. (2013): Love 2.0. New York: Hudson Street Press
Reivich, K. and Shatté, A. (2002) The Resilience Factor: 7 essential skills for overcoming life’s inevitable obstacles. New York: Three Rivers Press
Seligmann, M. (2011): Flourish. New York: Free Press.